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    Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

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    DaniFooFani

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    Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by DaniFooFani on Mon May 12, 2014 12:11 pm



    I think we should have celebrations for single people that include parties and gift registries.
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    iliketoplaywithexcrement

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    Post by iliketoplaywithexcrement on Tue May 13, 2014 1:28 pm

    I sincerely agree with this.

    And I honestly think this should be a topic forum: how to fight singles/couple determinism. 


    • how single people can counteract couple-centrism
    • how couples can un-reinforce couple-centricism, help singles integrate more
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    Re: Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by Maximus on Wed May 14, 2014 8:59 pm


    I can see how it's related, but I feel social-status anxiety is a more complicated issue.

    I see it more to do with issues of wealth and privilege perhaps.

    Both singles and couples have their own sets of benefits and negatives.
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    Re: Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by iliketoplaywithexcrement on Wed May 14, 2014 10:00 pm

    Its on a different plane from economics.

    Especially after 30, there's a vortex pressuring people into couples.

    Ask single people, they'll tell you



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    Re: Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by Maximus on Fri May 16, 2014 5:20 pm

    I strongly feel the vortex of coupling pressure , as an implicit social mechanism, thoroughly and forcefully commences around the age of 12-14 (puberty), and will probably stick around until your early 70's. But after your 30's, let's be honest to say it may take on the guise of enticement towards marriage...but I think non-marriage coupling vortexes still exists for older adults who are windowed or have experienced previous divorce(s).

    When I was in high school, I never had a girlfriend, nor was I sexually active. The same for most of my college experience. And the same is true for my post-college early and mid 20's. During much of this time, I stopped fighting against it, and embrace who I was. I acknowledged myself as one that would never be with anyone, nor get married (deeper than that, nor really have any friends) [this is how I counter-acted social grouping centrism]. My aspirations in my mid 20's was to join an Eastern mountain monastery (preferably an Himalayan cave), with the ideals of creating an maintaining conditions to allow voluntary luciddreaming at will.

    This never really worked out.

    I think many of you already have some really good ideas to avoid couple centrism. And probably more realistic and effective than the one's I imagined. But is it really far off to say something along the lines of, "stop worrying about you think others may (or may not) be thinking about your own personal relationships?"

    And on the concept of "how couples can un-reinforce couple-centricism, help singles integrate more" I find that institutionalized norms and prejudices are often implicitly learn. Talking about it, and shedding light on the matter, helps to fight against what would otherwise be unconscious social habits. Just being happy with what you're doing, is often enough to make others not question your situation.
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    Re: Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by Maximus on Sat May 17, 2014 8:04 pm

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    Post by iliketoplaywithexcrement on Thu May 22, 2014 10:10 pm

    I was actually thinking of it from a guy-who's-in-a-couple's perspective. 

    How can "paired" people keep friendships from slipping away, lost to the "crowding out" effect: there's even less free time available after pairing up.
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    Re: Combating Status Anxiety: Celebrations for Single People

    Post by letlight on Mon May 26, 2014 5:50 pm

    One of the biggest reasons I want to be in a relationship is for free sex with a willing and attractive partner. Other than that whatever.

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